First Timers and Novices

Curious as to what BDSM and Fetish is all about?

Perhaps you are interested in exploring your secret inner urges but embarrassed or afraid to seek out a professional.  If so you have come to the right place. Or maybe you have already dabbled and have had a negative experience but still feel that incessant urge to explore? We receive many inquiries from people who are new to BDSM or fetish. For further information as to what fetish, BDSM, kink, role-play and fantasy play are all about you will need to do some serious reading throughout this entire site. Start at our introduction page and work your way through.

How does it all begin?

Many fetishists often have no idea of the origins or even a reason as to why a fetish activity appeals to them. They can often spend a great deal of their lives believing that they are 'strange' or 'unusual'.  This is because there is this one thing or series of things that strikes an erotic chord deep within them. Society does its damndest to try to ensure that we are all good little 'vanilla' boys or girls right from the instant we are born. As we grow older we become acutely aware of our 'non-vanilla' desires. You may feel that if you were to reveal your secret desire to your partner or your friends that you would be shunned by them.

Time to take the first step!

For those who have had the courage to explore their secret desires - bravo! For those who have not yet done so - what are you waiting for? Your dark desires are not going to go away - they are an intrinsic part of you and should be embraced and understood so that you can achieve balance. If you don't feel you can share your secret, we advise you to seek out a professional Fetish Provider to assist in your journey.

Safe, Sane and Consensual

We only condone activities between adults which are safe, sane and mutually consensual.

Any activity must be between persons over the age of 18 - the minimum legal requirement. The age a person should begin exploring their fetish side depends on their own readiness and level of maturity. We have no hesitation in reporting anyone to the relevant authorities we have suspicions of having any sexual involvement with persons under 18 or with animals.


First is safety. If the Fetish Provider you are visiting works from a legal BDSM commercial venue you are already on the right track. Legal venues are subject to strict health standards - both with the people who work there and the building itself. At Fetish House our Fetish Providers receive the highest level of training and are appropriately assessed before offering services independently. Safety is of paramount importance at all times and yours is assured.


Secondly is sanity. BDSM, fetish and fantasy involve a great deal of mind games and can often be extremely mentally challenging for the submissive. The submissive is often vulnerable when they are in their special 'head space'.  Special care needs to be taken to ensure that they 'play' within their limitations both mentally as well as physically.  Fetish House Dominants have the training to recognise this and take you on a mind-blowing journey without pushing you over the edge. They'll push you to your limits but not past them!


Third is consensual.  This means that you both agree as to what is to occur and what is permitted within your session. We will not do anything that you do not want us to!  This is perhaps the very issue that many first-timers and novices are most frightened of.  Some mistakenly believe that once they submit themselves to a Dominant they are going to be thrashed to within inches of their lives.  This is just not true!  A professional Fetish Provider will listen to your fantasies and desires and attempt to make them a reality.

Rest assured that anything you have fantasised about is, most probably, what we do on a daily basis.

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