Frequently Asked Questions

Do you have a question for us that isn’t listed here?  If so just give us a call and we will be happy to help.

Everyone at Fetish House is passionate about BDSM, fetish and great experiences. We’ve included the following information that we are asked on a regular basis to boost your awareness and make your experience with us as excellent as possible.

General questions

What is the difference between a licensed venue and a privately operating Mistress or sex worker?

Plenty…

Insurance: Legal venues are required to have liability insurance whereas a Mistress or sex worker operating from their own premises most likely does not have any insurance. This means that if you sustain an injury whilst on the premises you are not covered.

Health: Licensed venues (such as Fetish House) are required to conform to stringent health standards and are regularly visited by the Health Department to ensure ongoing compliance. This also includes regular medical checks for all service providers for which they are required to produce a clearance certificate from their doctor. Privately operatives without a SWA License are not regulated at all by the Health Department and may not follow appropriate procedures for ensuring your health safety.

Risk of prosecution: If you are found at an illegal venue you stand to be prosecuted yourself.  If there is not a Certificate issued by the Business Licensing Authority which clearly shows a SWA number followed by a ‘B’ or ‘BE’ this is an illegal venue. This Certificate should be displayed in clear view in the entrance or reception area of the venue. If Police attend the premises whilst you are there you will also be charged for engaging in illegal services.

Safety: You risk your safety in a venue which is illegal and therefore is not subjected to adhering to any safety guidelines. The person you are visiting may also be untrained or unqualified to provide the services you are seeking. And as the person you are seeing is likely to not have any insurance there is no recourse for you if you sustain any injuries whilst there.

How can I tell the difference between a legal or illegal operating Mistress or sex worker?

For any service provider (whether they be a Dominatrix or a sex worker) to be able to legally provide services from ANY venue it must be licensed in accordance with the Victorian Government’s Sex Worker Act. You can easily tell if a person is operating legally or not by the existence of a SWA number followed by the letter ‘B’ or ‘BE’. All legal venues are required BY LAW to display a certificate from the Business Licensing Authority which is visible as soon as you walk into the venue which shows the SWA number followed by the letters ‘B’ or ‘BE’. If the person you are visiting does not have this Certificate on display you are visiting an illegal venue and if you are found to be on the premises by Police you will be arrested and possibly charged.

What is BDSM?

Contrary to popular naive belief BDSM is not all about “beating the crap out of someone”. In fact it is nothing about that!

Your session can be as sensual and gently erotic as you like. Ever fancied just being tied to a bed, blindfolded and lightly tickled and erotically teased? We can cater to your deepest, darkest fantasies. Don’t be scared to ask!

Sessions can be as simple as a 15 minute spank or a golden shower right through to extended lock-up. For further information on particular features of Fetish House check out the ‘Bulletin Board’.

We can gently torment you with erotic tease or be severe and nasty – its your choice. You should discuss your needs and desires honestly, frankly and not be embarrassed to leave out any detail. For those who just want a little of the ‘vanilla’ stuff we have two or three ladies (available on selected days) who are happy to provide a full sex service.

How long does my session need to be?

The length of your session is completely up to you. You can make it as long or as short as you like. However, be aware that if you ask for a wide array of activities and then only book a half hour session, you are limiting your own experience. The Fetish Provider will do their best to include as much as they can, but cannot guarantee that you will get through everything.

If you would genuinely like advice on how long you should book, email a Fetish Provider or call Fetish House and let them know what is included in your session to get an idea of how long you will need.

Who should I see?

We can only give recommendations based on your session description and if you have a preference for physical appearance.  However chemistry and compatibility play a vital role in any session.  Therefore even the most experienced Fetish Providers cannot guarantee that you will have an explosive experience. All Service Providers at Fetish House endeavour to make your session as wonderful as possible. They take pride in their work and feel just as satisfied as you do when coming out of a good session.

Please visit our Fetish Providers page, look over the profiles, and see who you feel would be most suitable for your session ideas.

Do you have people who provide full service?

Yes, we do. They are able to incorporate parts of fetish and fantasy into your session. Please call us to see who is available.

Sessions with a Dominant

Can I have sex with the Mistress or Master?

For some, yes, that is an option but this must be negotiated prior to the session taking place. Keep in mind that the Fetish Provider will have additional fees applicable for more sexually explicit sessions. Not all Fetish Providers are open to this and others will determine whether they are on an individual basis and simply just how they happen to be feeling on any given day.

How can I incorporate sex into my session?

Firstly please refer to the paragraph above which addresses whether one can have sex with a Dominant Fetish Provider. Under other circumstances we can organise for a ‘submissive’ or ‘fantasy girl’ to provide sexual services for an additional fee. Price varies depending on length of time she will be required and activities required.

Am I allowed to orgasm in the session?

Yes, you are allowed to orgasm in session. The way in which you achieve climax depends on the scenario you have negotiated with the Fetish Provider. It may be more erotically-based, forcefully-based or directed. Some people even choose not to be allowed relief and to savour it for later. The choice is yours.

How hard will the Dominant go on me?

Although you are the submissive in the session, you are still in control of your boundaries. Before the session, the Dominant will ask you what activities you’d like and how intense you require them to be. You will also have a safe word during session if something should become too painful or uncomfortable. It is of vital importance that you understand the Dominant is not going to do anything to you that you don’t want them to. All sessions are safe, sane and consensual.  Please visit our First Timers and Novices page for more information.

Sessions with a submissive

Do all subs allow sex?

Not all submissives are sexual subs, and some subs prefer to develop a rapport with you first before allowing sex in those sessions. Again, it is best to discuss this individually with each submissive.

How hard can I go?

Again, this differs from person to person. Intensity of a session must be negotiated beforehand with the submissive, and a safe word will also be nominated. It is vital that the safe word is adhered to and the submissive’s boundaries respected. Most of our submissives are quite capable and have a decent tolerance. All sessions are safe, sane and consensual. If you do something to our subs during the course of the session that she has not consented to (i.e. mark her when she has said she cannot receive marks or any other activity she has not agreed to) there will either be financial or other harsher penalties.

Can I mark the submissive?

Not all submissives allow marking and those that do usually charge additional fees depending on how much marking you would like and where you would like it. Again, please email the individual submissive to discuss this.

Can I have a Dominant participate in the session too?

Yes, you may certainly have a Dominant participate in the session either actively or as a guide. A Dominant in your session can enhance the voyeuristic elements of your session while you watch them dominate the submissive, or can show you how to correctly administer your torturous fantasies on the submissive and help you with the safety issues involved.

If you prefer to keep your session private between you and submissive, our subs are very experienced and can also guide you along the way.

Other notes

Fetish House’s male in-house assistants

Fetish House has a couple of male assistants that are a permanent feature at Fetish House. There have been the odd occasions where someone has expressed discomfort at being shown in by them or answered the telephone by them. So we felt this issue should be addressed. These people are extremely open-minded and well versed in all that goes on here. So don’t be shy to speak to them in a direct manner as you will not be telling them anything they haven’t heard before. However, if you are uncomfortable with speaking with them simply let them know and ask to speak to a Mistress.

Volunteer slaves

We receive many emails and phone calls from men who state they are willing to freely offer their services for cleaning, functions etc. However, in reality, are expecting the constant attention and contact they would receive in a fully paid-for session. If you are a non-paying volunteer you should be grateful for anything you receive – even if it is nothing! Anyone who wishes to offer themselves as a volunteer should come in and complete a ‘Volunteer Application Form’. We do not send copies of this form out. You must come in so that we can see you when you complete the form. For further information go to our Volunteering & Service Exchange page.

LGBTIQA

At Fetish House we have Dominants, submissives and play partners of all sexual and gender orientations. Please feel confident in speaking with us when making enquiries over the telephone. We pride ourselves on being open and non-judgemental. If you are a little shy you can always drop us an email and we will answer as soon as possible.

Employment and apprenticeships

Fetish House has trained some of the finest Mistresses, Masters and submissives in Australia. We provide a warm, supportive and friendly environment for our Fetish Providers.

Due to the PCA 1994 laws in Victoria we are not permitted to advertise for Service Providers.